by Richard Cawte

Life can’t get any more hectic, can it?

There are just so many demands on our time these days. Whether you have a stressful job, a busy life with a young family, a challenging relationship, a serious illness – or any number of other causes for anxiety – stress has become the number one “killer” in the west.

So what can you do about it?

Here is a simple technique to dissolve the stress of pretty much any situation that involves another person.

As soon as you feel your hackles rise because someone is annoying you, shouting at you, arguing with you, make a decision to disengage.

Do this by using your imagination.

In your mind’s eye, see an invisible rope stretching from your hands to the person who is aggravating you. See that person pulling on the rope. And see that you are pulling on this end.

As the image settles in your mind, simply let go of your end of the rope.

See the rope fall slack. Feel the tension in your body dissolve.

let goThe results are dramatic. Perhaps the person at the other end will fall over (in your imagination). Perhaps they will look at you non-plussed. Either way, you will find that, by not giving energy to the argument, the friction between you stops.

It takes two people to have a tug of war. And the starting point to removing the stress of arguments is to acknowledge that you are one of the people tugging on that rope! Which means you are taking part in the “war”. Which means YOU can do something about it.

You can take control – by letting go!

More often than not, you will find yourself smiling, or breathing more easily as soon as you do this. That makes for a great starting-point to resolving the issue at hand in a calmer, healthier manner, which ultimately is good for us all!